When considering our psychological well-being, it may seem peculiar to consider the positive aspects of being unwell. One might argue that there are only downsides to such a condition. However, instead of assuming, as we often do, that our mental illnesses are solely problematic, we can embark on a journey of open-minded exploration. We can dare to ask ourselves: What purpose do my illnesses serve? In addition to their obvious costs, what secret upsides and unexpected benefits might they possess? Why do I unconsciously align myself with these illnesses, even at the expense of my own health?

Psychological afflictions often develop because, in some way, the alternative is perceived as even more unbearable. These illnesses act as a safeguard, albeit at a tremendous and tragic cost, shielding us from confronting something that threatens to inflict further pain and psychological turmoil. This something is the truth about our past experiences, the necessary steps for our future, and the true nature of those close to us.

Consider the individual who repeatedly fails her exams despite possessing high intelligence and ambition. What possible benefit could arise from such a dreadful affliction as self-sabotage? Upon examining her life, we may discover the presence of an intensely competitive and envious mother. This mother may react with disapproval and aggression upon witnessing her daughter’s success. Consequently, the daughter chooses the illness of self-sabotage over the unbearable realization that her mother is deeply damaged, capable of inflicting harm, and never truly loved her. Paradoxically, it can feel “better” to be unwell than to acknowledge the perpetual absence of love.

Behind numerous psychological illnesses lie hidden “benefits” – if we may use that term. For instance, experiencing failure can protect us from being envied, as we may fear the consequences of others coveting our achievements. Worrying excessively about our appearance can serve as a distraction from the painful sense of unworthiness instilled in us during childhood. Immersing ourselves in a frenzied state of busyness can effectively shield us from uncomfortable revelations regarding our true sexual desires. Adopting a paranoid mindset can prevent us from acknowledging the individuals we genuinely feel annoyed or resentful towards. Lastly, addiction can effectively mask the awareness of early abuse we endured.

Under certain circumstances, becoming unwell becomes the unconscious mind’s preferred path – the easier route. While it may not be pleasant or straightforward to live in a constant state of impotence, worry, failure, or paranoia, these options may still be perceived as better alternatives than facing the stark reality of our true sexuality, harboring anger towards a beloved parent, experiencing jealousy towards a sibling, or confronting the need for a career change or the end of a relationship. Behind a great many psychological illnesses lies a distressing truth we have exchanged for a neurotic symptom.

Once we grasp the underlying mechanism, it becomes imperative that we repeat the naive inquiry whenever an illness manifests: What peculiar and specific advantage does this illness hold for me? What knowledge about myself does it prevent me from acquiring? What actions would I take if I were not unwell? What purpose does depression, relationship sabotage, impotence, or social isolation serve? While we may typically complain about these issues, we must ponder the role they play in our lives and the purpose they serve for us.

With this newfound understanding, we can dare to believe that something far worse, something truly arduous to accept, is what we protect ourselves from by remaining unwell. Overcoming a mental affliction involves shifting our perception, no longer viewing it as a meaningless nuisance. Instead, we must recognize it as a shield that safeguards us from what we mistakenly believe would inflict even greater harm.